How to improve your social skills
December 9, 2009 by
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This is me answering a letter about improving your social skills.Thanks for taking the time to watch and write. Please subscribe Any questions: momo@themomozone.com
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I love videos like these, I like the advice, I listened to it. Howbeit, my point is still moot. What kind of world do I live in? Why do people, just talk, it’s so confusing. I really need to get out of the box here, sealed by the binding nails of awkwardness. I have tried and tried again. I have asked the wisest people I can find, parents, acquaintances, and so forth. I can never start a conversation with people. I love talking about anything. Except gossip. Gossip sucks hard. So, please…help
Hey guys, how do you all like, start an intelligent conversation. I just don’t get it. I really don’t. How can someone just talk to people, or have friends you can see and feel. I love talking to people, but…I really can’t understand the concept. It is so perplexing. I really do not want to cause animosity amongst the common folk. For 15 years have I lived, and I do not want to be the nerdy retard who talks about videogames all the time. What is wrong with me? WHAT?! Is it my vocabulary? WHAT
yeah as long as u try ur best, im trying to do the same thing… its hard to just change even with advice, i have tried EVERYTHING and nothing seems to make me better, i feel as if i am trapped being a socially awkward person who cant seem to get anywhere in life just because of communication. its very very difficult but if u can pull it off. life is 10 times better.. well good luck cenarius and good luck with the girl too
. i just feel like everything i say is wrong so i just dont talk
Thanks man for these good advices, i think it’ll be really helpful when put in practice, ima do my best to change, cuz i really really need it.. i feel as am losing myself and everything i once took for granted. not to mention the one i love and how confused is that person right now after actually meeting me and knowing what kind of person i am, well, i guess i can’t help it. there isnt like a magic button i press on to change
ima do my best to get out of this hell hole and get shards of life
hello Momo,
I really appreciate the little tips and skills you put down in that video, I usually go through the whole crap about worrying/sweating brian freezing up when theres a situation i thinks uncomfortable say for instance at work. Basically, we all need some degree of balls, (metephor right) and then we gotta listen for like you say that key word or trigger word and then give it to em,
by the way, this is advice i have gotten from other people, not myself, i have been seeking advice for at least a month now, and only recently have had enough guts to really let people know where i am coming from. i am still awkward deep down. i was dwelling 3 weeks ago (as u saw in the comment) and now im trying a new approach… its really hard NOT to dwell in the moment but just keep the positive thoughts about yourself on. if u have to force them than do so, itll help in the long run
one last thing… DONT try to totally change yourself to be that cool funny cocky guy. this is what i tryed, it doesnt work, u just have be yourself, and relax and when responding, give yourself time to think dont just hurry it out. most of us shy people are NICE people and believe it or not some chicks like that. and i still occasionally get the feeling that i will never change, i just ignore those feelings and tell myself that those feelings are LYING to me, it works u just have to be strong.
now with finding things 2 say thats a tough one, i still havent completely figured that one out, if u dont have the skill, u dont have it, plain and simple. thats my MAIN WEAKNESS and it probably is yours too. the only thing that helps me is 2 do trial and error basically. u have 2 fail many times in order to succeed once and NOT bash yourself for the many failures. just talk to people in random places and DONT THINK about the outcome. i know its easier said than done but give it a try!
try to b yourself too, dont worry about what everyone thinks about u, i still worry too much even tho i made progress. but when i really try to block it out, i do a lot better in social situations bc i am not looking for an outcome, i am just going with the flow.
i have learned so much in the past year about these kind of things, i have tried 2 not b so hard on myself 4 failing and 2 try to get something out of the situation instead of dwelling on it for so long… i am STILL awkward but now i dont look down on myself for failure, i am at least happy that i made an effort. 1 other thing, try STRONG eye contact until they look away, it really helps and gets them to no that u r serious about what u r talking about and u r LISTENING 2 what tthey have 2 say
yeah exactly! i have seemed to have been the “social retard” way for awhile now and i think our situations are similar because i used to be a console video game finatic, i would play video games all the time for YEARS and i had no life from age 14 to 17and i would avoid ALL social situations at all costs. i try way more now. it sucks bc u r so hard on yourself for failing so u dont try 4 so many days and u just feel like a dumbass. all i can say is keep trying and learn from your mistakes
same problem here :/
it all started from my computer games addiciton
too many years without developing any social skills at all really made me a “social retard” not just socially awkward person, dunno what to do, and whenever i try and fail it hurts me and i feel i dont will never change
you hava sick accent xD
and this video was lyke…
really showing that you’d make a commitment to help people feel better, which is awesome. honestly, idk whut it is buht i can talk through the phone w/o being awkward and thru the computer… just not lyke in real life… its kinda of strange tuh me ._.
any comment..?
you were actually an amazing people person and you lost your skills…how is that possible??
Hi,
I have serious communication problems. I have read books, I have tried really hard, but I still find it difficult to communicate.
Please help me
I’ve gotten into the habit of doing the same thing.
same
try talking to people who talk a lot, and kind of, um follow their lead.
my problem is that i dont talk much , cuz i dont know wat to talk about
Momo I know it has nothing to do with the subject but where did you buy your earrings?
VERY GOOD!!!
i am one of the most awkward people ever, i literally CANT talk to people without feeling stupid or nervous and i never have anything to say, i try my best to find a topic to talk about but i am just too wrapped up in the moment to really get anywhere, i am nearly a loner. i really dont know what it is, i have tried EVERYTHING even trying to play it cool but im still awkward
I think more people feel just as lonely than you think. I hardly talk to my family as well. The TV and computer keep us a part :-
dude! i need your help because all my life i have been a loner and i want to know why? oh and this distracts me in school work..i dont know what happened to me.. =( i use to socialize with my sis, father, but now i can’t communicate..dude please help me become more sociable/confident/..plz!
I think this is a great topic. I have this same situation – I used to crack everyone up, and now my jokes and humor is all to heady or abstract. It’s like when I kept learning I did it in a way that made my humor un-sociable. My peer group may have changed, too – more well-grounded, real, independent and good-hearted people. I no longer have the interest for my coarsely deprecating humor.